Hey people, hope you're well, its one of those my let's talk moments, So I was listening to a talk show last night and the guy said something like, he had never known his father or never had anyone teach/ show him how to be a man, that's why he turned out to be a regular jail guest with several baby mamas, I wanted to see what people had to say and as a serious aproko ( this is a colloquialism for someone who likes to read/listen to gossip gist) I quickly ran to the comments section to read the comments, I wasn't sure what kind of reaction people would have but really, I wasn't so much surprised at people reactions/comments, I read some interesting comments like, 'I am also in the same situation with you, and didn't act that same way, grow up and be a man'. another said, don't blame anyone for how your life turned out, that's what losers do, give excuses'. Wait.! what! really?  


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Hey people, happy Monday, happy leap year, I have not posted on a Monday in awhile, so I had a look at my calendar and its not just the last day of February which has literally flown by so quickly, but its also the 29th day of feb. (the leap year blog post) the joy of posting on a leap year is real (don't I sound very cliché already, lol). I wasn't sure what I was going to post today tbh but I thought I would do a quick weekend rant and let my brain boot in the process, hahaha (#singing# its my blog and I will do what I want to... (its that song from the problem child)).  Erhmmm let me gist you about my weekend first then get on to the main blog post for today, so first off, I had a long tiring week all through last week, I have been trying to create outfit for my Etsy shop for my spring/summer/vacation look book and been up till 2/3am most days because I had planned my photo shoot for Saturday morning and I just wasn't ready to change the date, I also had tickets to attend the magical lantern festival in London on the same Saturday, so all this put together made me a very tired lady!

I had my photo shoot done on Saturday morning by 8am in the interestingly cold weather ( let me use this moment to appreciate the wonderful friends I have in my life ( I know I have said this before and might begin to sound like a broken record, but really, who wakes up before 8am on a Saturday to take pictures for someone else for free (just to add) the answer is friends, am glad to have them in my life for real, and thanks to my friend and photographer for been the best ever, as soon as the pix are ready, I will be posting it).

As soon as my pix taking was over I ran off to the train station to catch my train just in time and then my weekend began, so the magical festival ticket was booked by 8pm ish and we had an interesting time wandering about taking some breath-taking pix, the lantern festival is something to do with the Chinese new year, its a mix of life sized animals and plants with light installations, the idea is absolutely beautiful, see some pictures below ( the things that fascinate me dou, bestie knows me too well).




 



 










this picture was taken from my phone and doesn't seem like its done the pix justice. anyways, we also had plans to go clubbing in London but you know how the body works when its tired and cant do nothing, that's it. so, we got back to our hotel, I was well tired and decided to take a 2hrs nap before going off to the club at midnight, hehehe, that was a cute error because as soon as by back hit the bed, dang!!! it was sleep till 4am and that's how my Saturday went. I was back in Manchester by midnight on Sunday, because I spent the whole of Sunday sleeping like a log, back on the grind on Monday.

So enough of the ranting and back to the main blogpost for today, erhmmm it is nothing really, lets face it, after all this epistle, I guess you must be tired of reading this post already, that's if you even bothered to read till the end, lol. I know you didn't or you just skimmed through the lines for the interesting bits, lol, but it fine. thanks for reading.


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In my last talk post, I wrote about staying young and been thankful, if you missed it, dont worry your pretty head, I am always here for you, just head over to the link here, get up to speed, then come back and lets get today's gist started.

So today's post is a continuation of my last post and I'll be talking about 2 of 10 ways to get into the life of staying young and been thankful, so lets get right into it people and oh, I also have some inspiring quotes as well, my love for the quote life dou.!

1.  Worry/stress less:

we get ourselves worked up with things we have little or no control over and as far as I know and can remember, worrying doesn't fix anything,

But really dou, lets critically analyse this worry of a thing, worrying is just human, we basically worry about everything;
we worry about what to wear to work even before its morning, we worry about what meal we should have during the day that wont make us put on weight,
we worry about paying bills for the month or next couple of months
we worry about our health at the sight of a small cough of cold
we worry about what to wear to that friend's party that will make you really stand out,
we worry about how we look in front of people and if they will accept us,
we worry about that job interview we went for and if they will offer us the job,
we worry about the significant other we are dating or married to and if they actually love us as much as we do them
we worry about pregnancy scare, when you were wide awake doing the do
we worry about having a family when we eventually tie the knot
we worry about our baby's health as soon as the skip a meal or aren't smiling or even crying like they were yesterday, like really we worry about the smallest thing possible even the air we breath.

Is it actually possible not to worry as  humans? well, except you have robot tendencies #justsaying, and really, its easy to say to someone, don't worry, everything will be fine but its not the easiest thing to do, because your mind keeps going back and forth trying to see how to get things fixed quickly which in reality gets us more worked up than we really should be.

that's clearly why the bible said
Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Matt 6:34 (this place always just speaks to me).

Worrying increases anxiety, it sometimes produces results like high blood pressure, depression, suicide and other health related issues which just doesn't just help, so, in my tiny head (irony) I have developed a quick fit that works for me;

quick fix;  getting your mind and tuning it to the fact that, nothing can ever be that serious, if you cant do anything about it, then don't stress over it, just take it one day at a time and always pray about it, I cant even begin to stress the importance of praying about a situation, I find that if God does not fix the fault, He always gives me the grace, strength and peace to see it through. See what the bible also said here (“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  Jeremiah 29:11), so people just chill











2. Exercise often (mentally and spiritually):


a wise man once said, a little exercise a day keeps the doctor away (sounds like something I coined from something else, lol, but you get my drift)
physical exercise without a doubt has a lot of health benefit, you will be more stronger, healthier with less health issues and lets face it, the moment you get into physical exercise it somehow also affects your diet and lifestyle, *beatthat, so get exercising people, you have everything to gain but nothing to loose but slow down when you are overdoing it.

Do physical exercise atleast 3times a week, go for a walk, run, jog, dance anything that makes you physically active and also eat healthy, your future self would thank you for it.






For spiritual exercise, the is constantly staying in the place of prayer, meditation and studying God's word, it doesn't have to be a 1 hour long prayer, a simple thank you Jesus goes along way, but also make time for longer prayers, your whole life would thank you.

Its not very easy to do this things because lets face it, the moment you say I want to start exercising and praying every morning, *dang, the way your to do list will start growing in the morning ehnnn even you self will be wonderfully amazed ( this is some real self expression ahahahaha) I am a witness to this.

So when this year started, come and see me and jinger ( its a Nigerian colloquialism for been motivated), I bought this dance workout CD, so I pray 30mins and workout 30mins in the morning before work, I struggled on this for 3weeks, phewwww it wasn't the easiest things possible and fourth week came my prayer reduced to 10mins and exercise to 15mins, and after sometime, it disappeared, lol, so I have devised a strategy since I know its not so easy for me to do this morning routine, I now walk to work, atleast 3times a week (erhmm I don't mean 10mins or 30mins walk oh, I mean 50mins walk in the morning in the cold and 6flight of stairs to get to my work desk and I listen to worship songs and pray all the way through and back from work as well so I get a good 2hours of walk for the days I walk (the sweat level in the cold makes me feel a sense of achievement))

but you really do have to exercise your self spiritually and physically the benefit is beyond words. one bible verse that motivates me on this one is  Isaiah 40:29-31“He gives power to the faint, abundant strength to the weak. Though young men faint and grow weary, and youths stagger and fall, they that hope in the LORD will renew their strength, they will soar on eagles’ wings; They will run and not grow weary, walk and not grow faint.”


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 Hey people, happy Sunday, its that time of the year again, the valentine weekend. hope you had a great valentine, well, mine was good, first of, it was my birthday on friday, yayyhhhhh, I was a year younger. so, I went out to dinner after work with my bestie and had such a great time.

fast forward to sunday which is the valentine's day we hear so much about, pheww am glad it finally over already ( this is the main reason for my rant), so I went to church, we had some vals day kinda day at church, I also had to do some photo shoot session with my friends to stock up on my etsy shop, I will be putting up some of the pix real soon. Guess what, I made the dress, took the pix myself and would be editing it myself if required. tell me about being a diy queen. yaassssss.

Anyways, after my photo shoot, I dropped my friends off and then had to drop my bestie at the train station and this is where the highlight of my whole weekend plays out. So you know when you start your car and it tell you, your petrol is low and you are like, ill just quickly go to where am going to and get to the petrol station on my way home and then you forget, I did this in the last two days and just as I was heading to the train stain this evening, just minutes from the train station, my car danced a bit of azonto and then stopped in my very before, oh lawddd and my panic nerve kicked it, then i get into been upset and am silently saying, oh lord who have I offended now, why didn't this thing just take me back home peacefully, well the answer was simple, I caused it, ahahhaha, the punishment for procrastination was real, I had to call the breakdown people and wait for a good 2hrs before they turn up.

Now just before they arrived I rang most of my friends to see who can come to my rescue. just to mention, I dont have many friend, I can literally count the amount of friends I have with just one hand and they are quiet loyal ( well it works both ways), sometimes am like I dont need battalions to call friends and they are no use in my life, the smaller my circle the more I can think straight.

Anyways one of my friends was right out the door, went to the petrol station and got petrol for me, and drove all the way to where I was, by this time I had been out hour. When we had finished putting the petrol, my battery had run out because I left my hazard light and head light on at the same time, like really, who does that, just me I guess (does any one know and can recommend schools/books for "know more about your car for dummies" because I am completely clueless on these things, there are times am like, God please gimme some mad money enough to have a driver and forget about this knowing your car jargons, phewwww, it tires me sometimes dou) so at the point my battery ran down am like, #thisisit!, does everything have to go wrong at the same time?

So my friend jumpstarts the car and just at the time my car came on, the breakdown car shows up, does nothing but I still have to sign for his call out? really? OMG, if I had known that I should have cancelled, like where did I drop my thinking caps fro real? (that's what panicking does to you right?) anyways my car is all working and am ready to go and I ask my friend to drive close to me, so I am sure no more drama takes place, I get close to my house but before then, I advised myself to top up on my petrol and then the final straw takes place, I wound down my drivers windows, am not sure what for and the silly thing refuses to go back up, at this point am like, this is it again, am driving back home in a 2degrees weather with wind slapping my face like "don't do this sh!!t next time",

I get home and the glass still wont wind up at this time I knew I had to solve this once and for all, I got down on my knees on the road in front of my house and said a few lines of prayer like "God if I have offended you and all this decides to happen in one night, please let this cup pass over me", ahhahaha, I can be drama like this sha, but really this things work, it does not have to a serious matter to pray about it, I know He's very busy with more important prayers and queries but this was a big deal to me right now and tadahhhh, like a dream, my glass winds up/wounds up (please pick the correct one) on the last try, hayyyyy, that wasnt easy but am glad the day is over already,

Now I can go off to bed and not fear my car be stuck on the raod and glass wound down and things get missing by morning. such an eventful day. how did yours go? leave a comment below.

ps. I think I have the best set of friends in my life, no jokes..!!

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unseen shoes: justfab
wrist watch: fossil

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